Talks
Here’s the talk I’m taking out at the moment.
Most people reckon other people are the problem.
It can look that way — there are plenty of idiots out there.
Most of the time though, the real trouble starts with what happens after.
Someone says something, does something, or just catches you on the wrong day… and you react before you’ve had a chance to think straight. You snap, go quiet, say something you wish you hadn’t, or end up carrying it round in your head for the rest of the day.
Then later on, you’re thinking, “why the hell did I do that?”
This talk is about that moment.
The point where things tip.
Because if you can catch yourself there — not an hour later, not that night when you’re replaying it — but right there while it’s happening… you’ve got a fighting chance of handling things better.
And life tends to get a bit easier when you do.
The kind of groups this works for
My talks aren’t aimed at people who want a polished “how to be better” presentation.
They tend to land better with groups who can take a straight conversation without it being dressed up — people who’ve lived a bit, seen a bit, and are willing to be honest about their own reactions rather than just pointing at everyone else.
I’ve spoken in all sorts of places over the years, from things like the Women’s Institute to prisons, and even the odd local radio interview, and the common thread is always the same — if people are open enough to look at themselves without taking it personally, it lands.
If that sounds like the kind of group you’ve got, here’s what the talk actually covers.
What this talk covers
- Why other people don’t actually control your reactions
- How emotional triggers get wired into our behaviour
- The simple idea of calling “cut” on reactions that aren’t helping
- Practical ways to take back control of how you respond
Getting me in to speak
If you’re thinking, ‘I wouldn’t mind getting this bloke in to talk,’ just get in touch.
Tell me a bit about what you’ve got in mind — who it’s for, what the setting is, and what you’re hoping people get from it — and we’ll see if it makes sense.
If it does, we’ll sort the details. If it doesn’t, no harm done — nothing lost.
Click the button below, send over a few details, and I’ll come back to you.