Book a 30-minute session and we’ll figure out what’s actually going on
If you’re reading this, there’s probably something that’s been doing your head in for a while.
You’ve thought it through, more than once, and you still end up in the same place.
That’s usually the point where another set of eyes actually makes a difference.
That’s because when you’re in the middle of it, you can’t always see it clearly.
You bring whatever’s been going on, and we sit down and look at it properly.
We slow things down, pick it apart a bit, and work out what’s actually happening underneath, instead of just reacting to what’s happening on the surface.
Sometimes that’s enough to shift something straight away.
Sometimes you just see things differently, in a way you hadn’t before.
Either way, you don’t leave in the same headspace you came in with.
And if you decide you want more help after that, we can talk about next steps.
If you’re already thinking, yeah, let’s do this, you can book here.
This isn’t a one-size-fits-all thing
You might come in with something specific, or you might just have that feeling that something isn’t quite right and you can’t fully pin down why.
You talk me through what’s been going on, and I’m listening not just to the words, but to the patterns underneath them, because that’s usually where the real issue is sitting.
From there, we slow things down and look at it properly, so instead of going round in circles, you can start to see what’s actually driving it.
Sometimes there’s a bit more to work through, and we take it at the pace that makes sense for you.
If something heavier comes up, we deal with it, but that’s not the focus of what we’re doing.
The whole point is that you’re not being pushed through a system or given a script to follow. We work with what’s actually in front of us and figure out what’s going to help you move forward.
Where this tends to show up
You’re in the middle of a conversation, and suddenly it turns quicker than you expected, and you hear yourself saying something you didn’t plan to say.
Or something small gets under your skin more than it should, and before you’ve had a chance to think it through, you’ve already reacted.
Most of the time, you’re fine, which is what makes it so frustrating. You can handle life, you’re not falling apart, but every now and then, something catches you off guard, and you end up back in the same place again.
Then later on, when it’s all calmed down, you can see it clearly and think, “Why did I handle it like that?”
How it works
You’ve told yourself you’ll handle things differently next time, and for a while that sticks, until you find yourself back in the same situation and it goes the same way again.
That’s not down to a lack of effort, and it’s not because you don’t understand what you should be doing.
What’s happening in those moments is quicker than your thinking.
By the time you realise what’s going on, you’re already halfway through the reaction.
That’s why you can understand it afterwards, but still find yourself doing the same thing when it matters.
What I bring to this
I’ve worked with people in therapy settings, spent time in prisons, and seen how quickly people change when there’s real pressure involved.
There’s also a background in acting and filmmaking, which sounds like a strange mix, but it teaches you how to spot what’s really going on underneath how someone presents themselves.
And then there’s just life.
So when you sit down with me, you’re not getting one fixed way of doing things or a load of theory thrown at you. You’re getting a mix of experience and a way of looking at what’s going on that actually makes sense when you’re dealing with it in real time.
Who this is for
This tends to work best if you’re at the point where you’re starting to look at your own part in things, not just what’s going on around you.
You don’t need to have everything figured out, but you do need to be open to the idea that something might need to change in how you respond, even if that’s not the most comfortable place to go.
You’re not looking to be fixed, and you’re not looking for someone to tell you everything is someone else’s fault.
You just don’t want to keep repeating the same patterns and dealing with the same consequences.
I keep this deliberately small
I work one-to-one with only a small number of people each week.
That’s on purpose. It means you’re not just another slot in a packed diary, and I’m not rushing through a conversation because someone else is waiting.
So if you do book, you’ll get my full attention, not a watered-down version.
Before you book
This is a paid 30-minute session, and we get straight into what’s been going on rather than skirting around it.
The session is £50.
If we decide to carry on working together after that, full one-hour sessions are £150.
You don’t need to prepare anything. Just bring whatever’s been on your mind and we’ll work through it together.
If anything comes up during the session, we deal with it there and then. And if it becomes clear that I’m not the right person to help you, I’ll tell you and point you in a better direction rather than dragging things out.
If you’re reading this and thinking, ‘yeah, this is exactly it’ — book a time.
If there’s something still niggling at you before you book, send me a message, and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.
It’s me reading and replying, not a team or an automated response, and I check emails a few times a day, so you won’t be left waiting long.
If something changes
If you need to reschedule, that’s fine. Life gets in the way sometimes, and I understand that. Just let me know as soon as you can, and we’ll sort another time.
If you decide to cancel, please give at least 24 hours’ notice so the time doesn’t go to waste.
This is a bit random, but…
If you ever watched the Trisha show, you’ll remember when people got sent off to talk things through properly. I was one of the people they’d get sent to.